In Between

“I don’t know why I go to extremes. Too high or too low, their ain’t no in between.” Billy Joel

In between is the sweet spot. The place where we find the seemingly elusive balance. Where the pendulum rests.

Decisions are often are made in extremes as a result of something going too far. An argument, a policy, a death. As if going to the completely other side will somehow bring balance and the pendulum will rest. But gravity is inevitable and the pendulum slowly swings back to center – in between.

In between can also be a place where guilt resides when we don’t do enough. Or, when we do too much and our relationships and health suffer.

However in between is where we find solutions. Where we compromise and seek first to understand – first inside ourselves then with others. In between is judgement free. In between is where forgiveness and love live.

“The space between is where you’ll find me waiting for you.” Dave Matthews.

Be You, or Bust

Cristiano Ronaldo poses next to the bronze bust.
Real Madrid star Cristiano Ronaldo.

Imagine being honored with a bronze statue to immortalize you and at the unveiling the statue is said to look like someone else? Does that invalidate the artists work or make it any less of a masterpiece?

Participants at a recent Q and A with best selling author and speaker Seth Godin, were hungry for the magic formula that led to his success. This was a common question asked several different ways. Seth’s formula was simple –  Be You. Write about issues that matter to you. Be causal about your passions. Be inspired by others and add your unique perspective. The world is full of people and places that inspire us! Don’t let what others think stop you from sharing who you are with the world. It’s only their perspective.

Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else. Judy Garland

Only we can create the best version of ourselves, and we are perfect just the way we are. We have everything we need inside of us to be, do and achieve anything and have everything life has to offer.

Be you. You are a masterpiece. Believe it, or bust.

Be Intentional About Personal Growth

 “When learning is purposeful, creativity blossoms. When creativity blossoms, thinking emanates. When thinking emanates, knowledge is fully lit. When knowledge is lit, economy flourishes.”
― A.P.J. Abdul Kalam, Indomitable Spirit

Life is a journey – so we’ve been told over and over and over. Who we are at the beginning of the journey naturally changes over the course of the time as our bodies and mind age. Consistent attention to improving our physical condition gives us strength to endure even the most challenging trails. However, no matter how strong we are physically, if we don’t have the mental strength to overcome roadblocks on our journey, we could unconsciously choose a path of least resistance.

Consistent attention to improving our mental capacity takes a conscious effort as well. This is often referred to as personal growth. It can be painful and leave your ego a little bruised. It can also be freeing and leave you with a deeper understanding of yourself and what you are truly capable of.

If you happen to meet someone along on your journey that inspires you, and causes you to see yourself better than you see yourself, you are likely to have met someone who is growing personally. If they lift you up and add value to your life they are growing personally.  If they are grateful, and humble, and love you unconditionally they are growing personally. If they see failure as an opportunity, they are growing personally. If they are quick to forgive and apologize, they are growing personally.

Personal growth must be intentional and consistent, just like working out. Outside of a life event that unexpectedly causes us to grow, you must make a conscious effort to do so. Here are some suggestions for a personal growth plan.

  • Choose a word for the month that represents your intention and what you want to focus on, i.e, Courage, Fun, Time,
  • Write 5 thing you are grateful for everyday
  • Read  a page or chapter from a personal growth book (Follow me on Goodreads for some suggestions
  • Do one random act of kindness a day
  • Spend 5 minutes in silence
  • Take a hike in nature with no phone.
  • Disconnect from electronics daily

Bon Voyage!

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